When most people think of love languages, they think of romantic relationships—and maybe even of couples’ quizzes and Instagram infographics. But what if love languages could be more than just communication tools? What if they were also maps to co-regulation—especially for those of us with anxiety, CPTSD, or a sensitive nervous system? For someone with a dysregulated nervous system, understanding how they prefer to receive love can be key to co-regulation.

Brainspotting (along with other somatic approaches like EMDR and Somatic Experiencing), can be especially helpful for clients who feel stuck despite having a lot of insight. For those who understand their patterns but still find their trauma holds them back, these methods offer a "bottom-up" approach that allows the body to lead in processing trauma.